October is Dating/Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Purple Stop Domestic Violence RibbonDomestic Violence Awareness month is held each October as a way to unite efforts to end domestic violence. Please take time this month to learn about Dating and Domestic Violence and participate in the activities available at LSCPA and online.

DVAM Awareness Activities at LSCPA

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DVAM Awareness State and National Events

  • Thursday, 10/19/2023 - Purple Thursday

DVAM Awareness Free Activities Online

  • Thursday, 10/5/2023, 11am-1pm - Bystander Intervention for Helpers - Domestic violence can happen to anyone, even the helpers. Join us to learn how you can support the helpers in your life.
  • Thursday, 10/12/2023, 11am-1pm - Why People Cause Harm - Domestic violence is a relationship choice. Join Arlington’s Partner/SHIFT program as they explore why someone would cause harm.
  • Sunday, 10/15/2023, 2:30pm-4pm - Now I See Clearly - Join author Robin Reed-Poindexter for an Domestic Violence Awareness Month online event as she leads a discussion about survival.

DVAM Awareness on Social Media

The following hashtags will be used this month by people trying to raise awareness about Domestic Violence, including by sharing their own stories. 

  • #DVAM
  • #WeAreResilient
  • #HealHoldCenter
  • #LoveShouldntHurt
  • #Every1KnowsSome1
  • #StandAgainstDV
  • #PledgePurple

About Dating/Domestic Violence

Dating Violence and Domestic Violence (also known as Intimate Partner Violence or Relationship Violence) occurs when there is abuse in a relationship. It's not just physical abuse. It also includes other abusive and controlling behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over the other partner, such as:

  • Emotional and verbal abuse - insulting and calling a partner names, constantly criticizing, isolating a partner from family and friends, monitoring a partner's activities, humiliating a partner, threatening a partner, damaging a partner's belongings, blaming a partner for the abusive behavior, or gaslighting a partner by pretending not to understand, questioning facts, and denying statements or actions.
  • Financial abuse - using money to control a partner.
  • Sexual abuse - forcing a partner to engage in non-consensual sexual activity.
  • Digital abuse - using technology and the internet to bully, harass, stalk, intimidate, or control a partner.

Abuse can occur at any stage of a relationship. 

People of all ages, races, genders, sexuality, religion, education level, or income level can be victims or perpetrators of abuse.

Source: National Domestic Violence Hotline

  • 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men in the US will experience rape, physical violence and/or stalking by an intimate partner.
  • 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men in the US have been the victim of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
  • Almost half of all people in the US have experienced psychological aggression by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
  • 81% of women and 35% of men who experienced rape, stalking, or physical violence from an intimate partner reported significant impacts like injuries or symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
  • 12 million people per year are affected by intimate partner violence - that's an average of 24 people per minute.
  • 1 in 10 high school students have experienced physical violence from a partner in the past year.
  • 43% of dating college women report experiencing violent and abusive dating behaviors, including physical, sexual, digital, verbal, or other controlling abuse.

Source: National Domestic Violence Hotline

Anyone can be an abuser. The majority are not violent outside the home, and 90% don't have criminal records.

Traits of an Abuser

  • Denies the existence or minimizes the seriousness of the violence and its effect on the victim and other family members.
  • Objectifies the victim and often sees them as their property or sexual objects.
  • Has low self-esteem and feels powerless and ineffective in the world.
    • They may appear successful, but internally, they feel inadequate.
  • Externalizes the causes of their behavior.
    • They blame their violence on circumstances such as stress, their partner's behavior, a "bad day," on alcohol, drugs, or other factors.
  • May be pleasant and charming between periods of violence and is often seen as a "nice person" to others outside the relationship. 

Warning Signs

  • Extreme jealousy
  • Possessiveness
  • Unpredictability
  • A bad temper
  • Cruelty to animals
  • Verbal abuse
  • Extremely controlling behavior
  • Antiquated beliefs about roles of women and men in relationships
  • Forced sex or disregard of their partner's unwillingness to have sex
  • Sabotage of birth control methods or refusal to honor agreed upon methods
  • Blaming the victim for anything bad that happens
  • Sabotage or obstruction of the victim's ability to work or attend school
  • Controls all the finances
  • Abuse of other family members, children or pets
  • Accusations of the victim flirting with others or having an affair
  • Control of what the victim wears and how they act
  • Demeaning the victim either privately or publicly
  • Embarrassment or humiliation of the victim in front of others
  • Harassment of the victim at work

Source: National Coalition Against Domestic Violence

You can help victims of domestic violence by intervening in a safe manner, by offering assistance, and by generally working to create a culture of respect. 

National Resources

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